ReCreate 2012: Tim Sanders, Part 2

February 14th, 2012 | by | life lessons

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I mentioned yesterday that as Tim Sanders took the stage, since I had read a little bit about his background and his message, I was ready to dismiss much of what he was going to say as more of the same self-help jargon (I am now ashamed to say). Then I started thinking: He’s going to be telling us about what has actually worked for him. And in the end, if it’s true, then God’s Word will back it up. So, as Tim shared his 7 Principles for Total Confidence, I listened. And then, like a good Berean, I started digging through my Bible to see if what Tim said was there. Here is what I found:

1. Feed your mind good stuff

Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

Proverbs 23:7 “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”

2. Move the conversation forward

Colossians 4:6 “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”

3. Exercise your gratitude

1 Thessalonians 5:18 “give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

4. Give to be rich

Proverbs 11:24 “One person gives freely, yet gains even more;
another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty.”

5. Prepare your self

Proverbs 4:7 “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom.
Though it cost all you have, get understanding.”

6. Balance your confidence

Romans 12:3 “For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you. “

7. Promise made, promise kept

Ecclesiastes 5:5 “It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it.”

Matthew 5:37 “All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one”

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ReCreate 2012: Tim Sanders, part 1

February 13th, 2012 | by | life lessons

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Last week, I had the privilege of attending, on someone else’s dime, no less, the ReCreate Conference in Franklin, TN.  I am so utterly overwhelmed with work right now that if I could have backed out of attending the conference, I think I would have.  I didn’t, and I can’t express how glad I am that I didn’t.  A wealth of wisdom, generosity, and love was poured out on us, and much was asked of us as well. I came back ready to give more, ready to pursue more, ready to be used more.

The first keynote speaker was Tim Sanders, former Chief Solutions Officer at Yahoo and author of NYT bestsellers Love Is The Killer App, and The Likeability Factor.  We all received, as one part of the bountiful swag bestowed upon us, a copy of his latest book, Today We Are Rich.

While some of us were eating lunch together after Tim spoke to us, a number of us said that we had been expecting his talk to contain the usual self-help axioms about positive thinking and choosing how you’re going to feel.  Matt Foley was brought up (and very well imitated).  Of course, that stopped abruptly when Tim sat down at our table…

We went on to say, however, that we were all very pleasantly surprised.  Yes, Tim said that positive thinking matters, and he’s right.  As he pointed out, God says so Himself in Proverbs 23:7 – “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”

As I am in a time of burnout at work, I was particularly struck by what Tim said about how stress or confidence affects our mind and our creativity.  On an average day, we’re leveraging around 10% of our brainpower, but during times when you’re feeling particularly confident, you’re up to 30%.  Conversely, during times of stress and anxiety, that figure plummets to something like 2 to 3%.

This means that if you are operating in stress mode, you are only working with 1/10th of your capacity. 

Think about what this does to your creativity, to your ability to think logically, to plan, and to process.  You’ve probably heard that you should “ruthlessly eliminate hurry.” The same applies to all stress – not just stress caused by being in a hurry.  Everything that exists began as an idea, and so it is worth doing whatever we can to take care of our minds, our idea-creators, making sure that they’re working at full power as much as possible.

Tomorrow, I’ll lay out the “Seven Principles of Total Confidence” that Tim shared with us, and demonstrate that each one of them are found in God’s Word.

Based on your current circumstances, at what capacity do you think your mind is operating?  What ruthless steps can you take to improve things?

 

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The Problem with Church Building Campaigns

January 16th, 2012 | by | uncategorized

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A few disclaimers:

Buildings are not evil
I do believe that buildings can be useful tools for the church, and that we need spaces for the church to meet for corporate worship and other purposes. However, churches can tend to look at buildings the way individuals can tend to look at cars; it’s really easy to convince yourself that you need a Toyota Land Cruiser when all you really need is a Honda Civic.  Most likely, they will both get you where you need to go.

“Isn’t the problem with the church depicted in the graphic more with the church itself, rather than with the campaign?”
The problem is ultimately with the church, but if the church really needs to resort to a campaign in order to acquire a new building, then it probably isn’t ready for a new building. A campaign relies heavily on marketing strategies and other forms of group manipulation, and the need for that kind of tactic in order to create buy-in from the congregation likely means that God isn’t the one initiating the process. When God really is prompting a church to add to their space, a campaign won’t be necessary.

 

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Broken

September 19th, 2011 | by | uncategorized

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You’ve had moments when you wanted something that you knew you shouldn’t want.  You wanted to do or say or see something that God has told you to avoid.  Have you also had moments when you couldn’t see why God commands you to avoid the thing you were wanting?  Have you asked yourself questions like “Why exactly is this a bad thing?  How would this harm anyone?  Why is this forbidden?”

In those moments, human reasoning can’t understand why certain things really are intrinsically bad, and it can’t see any real concrete negative consequences that those things would bring about.  This can lead us to feel at times that God made up some arbitrary commends just to box us in.

One day, as I was trying to reconcile this line of thought with what I know to be true about God – that He is a perfectly loving Father who desires to lead us into His abundant life, and that all of His commands are designed to point us to Him and to that life – I had  realization.

I’m broken.

Actually, it wasn’t that this was a new realization, but I saw it in a new way.

When a piece of technology begins to break, it will usually start displaying some strange symptoms.  The bootup screen on your computer looks weird.  Pictures and documents are suddenly missing.  The sound is muffled or distorted.  Your washing machine overflows with water.  Your car makes a strange noise.

Have you ever thought about the fact that when those things are happening, the technology is doing exactly what it is configured to do at that moment?  Your car is perfectly configured at that moment to make that noise.  Your washing machine is overflowing with water because that’s exactly what it’s designed (re-designed) to do at that point.  It can’t do anything else

We are broken.  Not just a little broken.  It’s not that only some parts of us are broken.  We are entirely broken, at the most foundational level.

Our bodies are broken, so we will get sick sometimes, and we will eventually die.
Our spirits is broken, so we will suffer spiritual death.
Our desires are broken, so we will desire things that we shouldn’t desire.
Our reason is broken, so we will sometimes not understand why certain things that we want are actually harmful.

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. -Proverbs 14:12

We are doing exactly what we, in our broken state, are configured to do, and on our own,  we can do nothing else.  When something seems good, but God says that it isn’t, it is not that we have suddenly gained a new perspective on God, and have discovered that He is, after all, an old curmudgeon who wants to be sure that we don’t enjoy life too much.  Instead, it is that our perspective, like everything about us, is broken.

Who will deliver me from this body of death? Thanks be to God, through Jesus Christ, our Lord! -Romans 7:24-25

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Missing The Parade

August 30th, 2011 | by | uncategorized

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We’ve had a heck of a summer in Texas, weather-wise, with record breaking drought and heat, and although I’ve lived in Texas my whole life, I’ve never adjusted to the hot summers, even the normal summers. That means that by this time of the year, I’m eagerly anticipating the arrival of autumn, not just for the cooler temperatures, but for all of the other things that will start appearing now: Rich, autumn foods; people enjoying a good, harmless scare; the resinous scent of autumn forests, making decorations with our daughter, the Yankee candles my wife like to bring out for fall, the fireplace, thanksgiving meals, snow, Christmas…

These aren’t complicated things, and I know plenty of folks who hardly think about them. For some reason, as we grow older, we forget about the things we enjoyed when we were young. We become preoccupied with our adult responsibilities and our sophisticated, important activities. Lots of people, myself included, get so focused on these things that we miss the small joys and blessings that God parades before us every day, and when we do that, we become ungrateful, unhappy, and serious.

Joy is the serious business of heaven. -C.S. Lewis

Jesus tells us that retaining a childlike heart is key to entering the Kingdom of Heaven, and John Ortberg writes in The Life You’ve Always Wanted, that when we forget what it is to be childlike, we have “become older than God.”

Having a daughter eight years ago helped to remind me about what He meant, and seeing the world through her eyes has brought me more joy. She’s already getting excited about preparing for Halloween, about making candy apples, cider doughnuts, watching Charlie Brown specials, going on walks through the woods…and so am I.

What are some small things that you enjoy?

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Vital Signs, Part 3: Technology

August 22nd, 2011 | by | the church

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Wow.  When I started this blog, I didn’t think I’d wind up talking about the church so much, but that’s how it’s shaping up so far.  My goal with these posts isn’t to complain, but to diagnose, toward the end of, hopefully, working toward something better.  Again, I invite you to read the Prologue to my first post, if you haven’t yet.

One Sunday morning a couple of weeks ago, we were preparing the technology for a class being taught by our senior pastor – firing up the projectors, getting the computers started up….when we discovered that the unit which actually controls the screens wasn’t functioning.  Our main tech guy was feverishly troubleshooting the problem, and I was in the tech booth lending aid, but we weren’t getting anywhere, and it was time for the class to begin.

Meanwhile, there were a few people whose hair had spontaneously combusted, and some shockingly insulting things were said to our tech guy.  In the end, the problem was a faulty piece of equipment that needed to be replaced, a problem that couldn’t be solved that morning.  The class went forward without the video – and everyone loved it.

We had a similar problem yesterday, (another piece of equipment had gone bad) and while we found some workarounds, the stress level was again higher.

We have become so dependent on technology in our church that when it doesn’t work, it becomes a crisis bigger than death.  People who don’t get all that concerned about starvation in Somalia have aneurisms if the sound system acts up. While the majority of the people don’t react quite that strongly, many experience some sense of loss, stress, and confusion.

Now don’t get me wrong.  I am absolutely a technology geek, and I love working with it, but I think that the church has become far too dependent on technology.  It has become not just another tool, but a crutch.  Somehow, people have forgotten that if anything meaningful happens among us when we gather, it’s the power of God at work, not the power of our amplifiers.

Yes, we need to strive for excellence (which is more of a heart issue than anything else), and yes, we need to use the tools we have as well as we can, but don’t believe for a second that God is crippled if the technology chokes at the last minute.

How does the congregation you attend react when the technology isn’t working?
Do you feel that it affects you personally if something messes up?
If you’re on staff at a church, how does the staff react to these kinds of problems?
How can we work towards a more healthy perspective on the use of technology for worship and discipleship?

 

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Vital Signs, part 2

August 17th, 2011 | by | the church

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If you haven’t read part one of this series, then please read at least the Prologue in that post, so that you will know what my objective is with these posts, and from what perspective they are written.

The senior pastor here where I work has a really great singing voice, and people love hearing him sing.  Lately, some people have been suggesting that he needs to sing the chants at our liturgical service, a.k.a. the “early service”, and given his gift, I can understand this suggestion.  But today, I was standing in my cubicle (I have converted my desk to a standing desk, but that’s for another post), and I overheard someone here in the office say the following:

We need to get Pastor to chant the liturgy, and we need to be sure to advertise it in the bulletin several weeks in advance.  Boy, if we did that, we’d have standing room only at the early service.

On the surface, this may seem pretty innocuous, and while it’s not all that dastardly, there are several misguided ideas behind this kind of thinking:

1) People will meet with God if we can get them into the church building.

This just isn’t Biblical.  Don’t get me wrong – there are instances of people meeting with God at various spiritual gatherings, but most of the time, the Biblical accounts of encounters with God happened out where life was already happening.  Moses was just tending to his sheep.   Saul (who became Paul) was walking traveling to a city.  A crippled beggar was sitting by the side of the road.  A young Samuel was just trying to get to sleep. A woman was getting water from the well.

…and yet, we continue to teach that our spiritual gatherings are where you should expect to meet with God, instead of teaching people to look for God all around them, and to teach the rest of the world that God is already with them.

2) Real ministry/prayer/teaching/worship happens at the church building.

Again, while we do see Jesus and others teaching and praying in the Temple sometimes, we see the greatest examples of ministry, prayers, teaching, and worship (which, remember, is more than singing) out in everyday life.  We have this idea that if we can just get people to the building, then they’ll experience the benefits of professional ministers, teachers, prayers, and worshipers.

What we must do instead is stop perpetuating the notion that real ministry is up to a select few, and happens only (or even just better) at specific places.  Peter wrote (1 Peter 2:9) that we are all part of a royal priesthood.  Ephesians 4:11-12 tells us that we are all to be playing a role in serving and building up each other.  1 Thessalonians 5:17 encourages us to pray continuously.   Even the Great Commission is best translated not “Go and make disciples,” but “As you go, make disciples.” Jesus modeled this for us not by insisting that his disciples come to His weekly class at the Temple, but by teaching them in streets, and by wells, and out in fields, and on boats…

Another conviction against this school of thought is that research continues to show, again and again, that regular attendance and involvement in churches does very little, if any, to make a person more like Christ.

3) Since we believe that 1 and 2 are true, then we should resort to various gimmicks to draw people in.

The problem with this is pretty obvious.  The Bible tells us of a people who lived lives of such love, hope, integrity, and wisdom that people were drawn into their community – into the Kingdom – by the people of the church, not by the building, or the programs, or the bands, or the gimmicks.  This can only happen as we learn again how to let our faith permeate every area of our every day lives, as we free ourselves from the pressure to always be at the church building, and to be out where life is already happening.

 

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Vital Signs (Part 1)

August 15th, 2011 | by | the church

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Prologue to the Vital Signs Posts

Roughly ten years ago, my career shifted rather unexpectedly from “systems administrator” to “full time church employee.”  Once I started working for the church, I began to think a lot more than I ever had about just what the Church is, how we need to be functioning, and what our role is in the world.  Spurred by several authors and speakers, especially over the past six or so years, I began asking some questions that I hadn’t ever thought to ask before, questions which were all variations on “Is the way that I grew up ‘doing church’ and the way that I’m ‘doing church’ now really the best way?”

At first, I found myself just seeing the sense of those people who were saying that some things needed to change, but over the past year or so, that has become a full fledged and deep seated conviction: The church must change.  I don’t mean that we need to throw away our theology or doctrine, and I don’t mean that we have to get rid of the old models of church structure.

Since this is no longer a brand new subject, and since so many other people have already gone into this at length, rather than try to spell out exactly what I do mean, I am going to uses these posts to tell stories of some things that I see happening in my experience, things which are like vital signs pointing to some serious health issues within the church.  I won’t wrap each post up with a tidy answer. In fact, I will probably usually close with some questions, though I do believe that there are answers and solutions. I also don’t intend for these posts to be negatively critical.  Rather, I hope that they will help to illustrate real examples of reasons that we need to make some adjustments in the church (or at least in the church where I work!).

Grieving Alone

Last Thursday evening, I was in the church building getting ready for band practice when I noticed a woman, someone I knew from our traditional service, sitting at the receptionist desk.  I hadn’t ever seen this woman there in the evenings, so I asked what had brought her there, and she told me that she was participating in a Grief Share group which we had recently started.  As we talked, I learned that she had recently lost both of her parents within a year of each other, and that she was going through some other difficulties as well.  Toward the end of our conversation, she referred to our Wednesday night programming (which we suspend during the summer and resume in the fall), and said

I can’t wait until our Wednesday night programming starts up again. I really miss the fellowship, and the teaching and learning.

As she said that, these are the questions that entered my mind:

Why are other Christians within the church not seeing to it that this woman is surrounded by friends who will share her pain, and that she only experiences “fellowship” when the church arranges fellowship events?

How have we taught her (inadvertently) that she can’t do any real learning on her own, and that she has to wait until the church organizes something for her?

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People Are Annoying. I’m Glad I’m Not A People.

August 10th, 2011 | by | uncategorized

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The past year and a half has visited me with a good amount of stress, with a decent serving of it coming from some particularly difficult people. I work at a church, and, big surprise, some of the people here can be very trying. Once in a while, someone will say “ministry would be great if it weren’t for all the people.”  Other times, especially when seeking advice on how to handle the latest escapade involving one of those people, during the discussion, someone will describe them using the acronym “EGR.”

Extra Grace Required

You know the EGR types.  The lady in front of you at the checkout line in the grocery store, who is purchasing 87 items in the 15 item express aisle, has a coupon for every one of them, and who can’t find her checkbook.  The guy who doesn’t put his phone on silent at the theater, and then actually answers a phone call he receives during the best part of the film.  The other guy who stupidly drives so close behind you that you can’t see his headlights (at 65 MPH) even though the next lane over is completely clear.   The person whose phone calls you ignore because you know that you can’t have a conversation with them in less than 1 1/2 hours, and in which they won’t be speaking less than 90% of that time.

Some time ago, I was involved in a conversation, and someone applied the EGR label to the person we were discussing.  I was suddenly struck by the hypocrisy of using this term.  Yes, that person probably requires more of my grace than other people, but as Jesus pointed out, when I offer grace to someone else, no matter how big their offense toward me, that’s like 2 cents worth of grace, whereas when God offers me grace, no matter how “small” my offense toward Him, that’s like 999 septendecillion (look it up) dollars’ worth of grace.

I want to see people through God’s eyes, because in the end, that’s the only viewpoint that matters.  That’s the one to which all other viewpoints – and actions based on those viewpoints – will be compared.  If I saw people as God does, then I would lavish extravagant grace and love on them, just as God does, and perhaps that love would begin to change them.  That’s where God wants me to be, but I’ve got a long way to go.

God help me.  I need extra grace.

Have you heard people using labels like this?  Have you been one of those people?  Who are the people that you find difficult?

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Note To Mouth

August 3rd, 2011 | by | life lessons

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A few days ago, I was visiting a blog written by @ThatGuyKC, reading a post in which he asked “If you and God were at Starbucks what would you order for Him?”

Being a bit (okay, a LOT) of a coffee geek, my snobbery was aroused, and so I turned up the snark and proceeded to bash Starbucks by saying that I would never take God to such a place, and that, instead, I’d take Him someplace where people care and know more about making coffee than just pushing a button, and I said something about the verse that says “whenever you make coffee, make it as though making it for the Lord.” This was my first comment ever on his blog.

He responded by (jokingly) telling me that he was impressed that I’d just Jesus Juked him on coffee. I wrote an apologetic response, saying that I hadn’t intended to juke him, that I really was saying everything tongue in cheek, and that I do still frequent Starbucks – because they’re closer than any of the shops that make what I consider to be excellent coffee. I pointed out that I am a bit of a snob about this.

A few minutes later, I received a very gracious and friendly email in which KC said that he, too, is a coffee snob. He then served me a Venti Humbleccino by saying that he was, in fact, such a snob that he works for Starbucks headquarters in Seattle.

I was reminded of the great quote by Will Rogers:

Never miss a good opportunity to shut up.

Now, KC wasn’t offended by any of this (thankfully), and took it as intended, but I was reminded of the importance of using words well. Be thoughtful about what you say, even jokingly, especially to people who don’t know you. And once you do know each other well, keep it up.

 

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